WHY DO A CONSTELLATION?
Sometimes no matter how much someone has worked on an issue, the problem
persists in spite of all well-intentioned efforts. A constellation focuses on a much
bigger picture than other forms of psychotherapy or other helping modalities.
Family Constellations begin with the idea that difficult problems don’t necessarily originate from a person’s biographical past from birth to present, but are often rooted in painful, unresolved issues out of the family’s generational history. One of the main concepts,“Orders of Love”, describes how certain issues become embedded in
the unconscious of the family lineage. Disturbances in these orders, as well as the sense of belonging essential for a feeling of well-being, often manifest in dysfunctional
patterns that persist in the family system over generations. A family member may
become “entangled” in the difficult fate of an ancestor and unknowingly draw suffering into his or her own life. This occurs when a current family member, usually a child,
unconsciously identifies with a family member from a previous generation who has
been excluded, forgotten, or met with a tragic fate that was not acknowledged or resolved in their lifetime. It is as if the child sacrifices himself for the sake of restoring
wholeness to the greater family system. Another main concept in this method is that
everyone has a right to belong, including both “good guys and bad guys” as long as
they are blood relatives, inlaws, or anyone who has had a significant role in the life
of the family.
Of course, this acting out of another’s fate never resolves anything and is considered
“blind love” — loyalty to the family's history without awareness. The concept of “entanglement” is core to this process in which the facilitator identifies who or what
the client is identified. Such entanglements may show up in the form of the disease,
relationship problems of many sorts, bad fortune, addiction, depression, suicide, or any
of the whole range of difficulties across the human spectrum. A major purpose of a
constellation is to reveal the hidden and compelling dynamics which have influenced
the family and created the entanglement(s). Healing comes from acknowledging the
reality without judging it, thereby freeing the entangled person so (s)he is no longer
“needed.” Another important purpose, where possible, is to create a “resolution picture” which helps restore balance and strength. From here “enlightened love” can emerge for the client over time.
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